Comments on: Stay Raw http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/ Social media and inbound marketing for non-profits Tue, 16 Mar 2010 13:05:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: John Haydon http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-4507 John Haydon Thu, 08 Oct 2009 04:10:30 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-4507 Thanks, Jeff. I knew you'd connect. Thanks, Jeff. I knew you'd connect.

]]> By: johnhaydon http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-3951 johnhaydon Thu, 08 Oct 2009 00:10:30 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-3951 Thanks, Jeff. I knew you'd connect. Thanks, Jeff. I knew you'd connect.

]]> By: Nancy Horne http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-3942 Nancy Horne Wed, 07 Oct 2009 17:14:14 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-3942 I lost my two beautiful and amazing young sons within 17 weeks of each other last year. Jeffrey was diagnosed with Acute Leukemia on his 20th birthday. After a new year long struggle marked by faith, love, hope and determination, he succumbed to the disease before his 21st. His younger brother Brian by 16 months - Jeffreys life long companion, very best friend and bone marrow transplant donor - died of sudden cardiac arrest ...a broken heart ... less than 5 months after losing his beloved brother. It has been a year since we lost them both. There is no amount of time that will take away the pain. I will remain "raw" until I draw my last breath. Thank you for this post ... I know, now, that I am not alone. I lost my two beautiful and amazing young sons within 17 weeks of each other last year. Jeffrey was diagnosed with Acute Leukemia on his 20th birthday. After a new year long struggle marked by faith, love, hope and determination, he succumbed to the disease before his 21st. His younger brother Brian by 16 months – Jeffreys life long companion, very best friend and bone marrow transplant donor – died of sudden cardiac arrest …a broken heart … less than 5 months after losing his beloved brother. It has been a year since we lost them both. There is no amount of time that will take away the pain. I will remain “raw” until I draw my last breath. Thank you for this post … I know, now, that I am not alone.

]]> By: Jeff Brown http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-3937 Jeff Brown Wed, 07 Oct 2009 13:34:42 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-3937 Wow. Poignant...poetic...perfect. Wow. Poignant…poetic…perfect.

]]> By: Jeff Brown http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-3936 Jeff Brown Wed, 07 Oct 2009 13:32:13 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-3936 I love this! I love this!

]]> By: johnhaydon http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-3931 johnhaydon Tue, 06 Oct 2009 11:48:26 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-3931 Deb - your described things so well! My mom had an aneurysm when I was a kid (read earlier post titled <a href="http://johnhaydon.com/2009/05/what-my-mom-taught-me-about-social-media/" rel="nofollow"><b>"What My Mom Taught Me About Social Media"</b></a>). I also feel her inside my heart. She even talks to me! Deb – your described things so well! My mom had an aneurysm when I was a kid (read earlier post titled “What My Mom Taught Me About Social Media”). I also feel her inside my heart. She even talks to me!

]]> By: johnhaydon http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-3932 johnhaydon Tue, 06 Oct 2009 11:41:09 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-3932 Gina - I really can appreciate your comment: <em>"never be ashamed of the tears no matter when they come as it is the Holy Spirit moving through you".</em> Although I am a Buddhist - an atheist by default (don't hate me ;-) ) - I believe in a universal life force that pulses within and around us. The way you framed it put's an entirely new light on tears. Thanks for that! Gina – I really can appreciate your comment: “never be ashamed of the tears no matter when they come as it is the Holy Spirit moving through you”. Although I am a Buddhist – an atheist by default (don't hate me ;-) ) – I believe in a universal life force that pulses within and around us. The way you framed it put's an entirely new light on tears. Thanks for that!

]]> By: johnhaydon http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-3930 johnhaydon Tue, 06 Oct 2009 11:36:18 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-3930 Thanks, Danny. The other amazing thing about death is a sense of mission it forges within your life. Sometimes I feel, "My mom is no longer in this world, so I must live strongly for the two of us!" Call it crazy, but I honestly feel that any good cause I make (helping others) benefits her life. Thanks, Danny. The other amazing thing about death is a sense of mission it forges within your life. Sometimes I feel, “My mom is no longer in this world, so I must live strongly for the two of us!” Call it crazy, but I honestly feel that any good cause I make (helping others) benefits her life.

]]> By: Gina http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-3929 Gina Tue, 06 Oct 2009 10:26:35 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-3929 John ....what a wonderful post. Your open heart has put you deeper into mine. While I have both parents still alive yet I have had many tragedies to cope with and I cope with tears, lots of them. <br>I have not always cried so easily though. In my early 20s I remember sitting on my bed knowing the pain in my chest and the anxiety I was experiencing would lessen if only I could cry. The tears just would not come.<br>While I don't remember exactly when they started again I do recall my friend and parish priest Father Morse telling me many years ago to "never be ashamed of the tears no matter when they come as it is the Holy Spirit moving through you". <br>I have always let them flow freely since and encourage my clients to do the same as it is a movement of the heart, the soul being made known on a physical level and a cleansing that kept held in causes fear, panic, anxiety and a multitude of physical likenesses as we wall off our connection to our hearts.<br>Thank you for letting me see you John and all your commenters...I am feeling very grateful for this heartfelt connection. John ….what a wonderful post. Your open heart has put you deeper into mine. While I have both parents still alive yet I have had many tragedies to cope with and I cope with tears, lots of them.
I have not always cried so easily though. In my early 20s I remember sitting on my bed knowing the pain in my chest and the anxiety I was experiencing would lessen if only I could cry. The tears just would not come.
While I don't remember exactly when they started again I do recall my friend and parish priest Father Morse telling me many years ago to “never be ashamed of the tears no matter when they come as it is the Holy Spirit moving through you”.
I have always let them flow freely since and encourage my clients to do the same as it is a movement of the heart, the soul being made known on a physical level and a cleansing that kept held in causes fear, panic, anxiety and a multitude of physical likenesses as we wall off our connection to our hearts.
Thank you for letting me see you John and all your commenters…I am feeling very grateful for this heartfelt connection.

]]> By: debsellsbr http://johnhaydon.com/2009/10/hurts/comment-page-1/#comment-3928 debsellsbr Tue, 06 Oct 2009 04:52:29 +0000 http://johnhaydon.com/?p=9357#comment-3928 John,<BR><BR>I truly appeciate you sharing your feelings about your grief and the loss of your mom. I lost my mom 3 years ago, this past September. I had quit the corporate world to move back home to care for her for 5 1/2 years. It was a blessing for both of us. She showed me how to live w/ debilitating illness and still greet each day with a smile. She had such grace and dignity, and compassion for others, right up to the end. I was NOT prepared for her death. I find it strange that, at 58 y.o., I've watched many babies come into the world and celebrated each joyous occasion, yet, no one prepared me for death, let alone my mom's. It was such a surreal experience. It is still very "RAW" for me. I can cry at the drop of a hat. I would cry walking through grocery stores or at the gym (like you) and folks would stop me and ask if there was anything they could do for me. I'd just say that I was grieving the loss of my mama. They wouldn't know what to say then. It was ok. <BR><BR>My mom lives on inside me...I feel that every day. The things that she taught me, her kind and gentle, caring spirit...I've got it!! And I talk to her so many times throughout the day. I just don't want to forget the way her hands felt......so very soft, when I would hold them, or the precious smile looking back up at me from her bed...and her scent..the fragrance that surrounded her even while in the hospital. At times I'm afraid that I will forget...I hope not.<BR><BR>Grieving is an individual journey and has no time limitations or conditions. For me, it is weaving the fabric of her life into mine and knowing that this is truly the cycle of life. I am JOY-FULL because this wonderful woman is no longer suffering. And I'm truly happy that she was MY mom.<BR><BR>Let those tears flow, John! I'll be right there with you, with my own. Losing ones mother is BIG. It just is! There are no "replacements." Carry her in your heart always, John.<BR><BR>Thanks for this post. I needed this today...a few tears & wonderful memories.</BR></BR></BR></BR></BR></BR></BR></BR></BR></BR> John,

I truly appeciate you sharing your feelings about your grief and the loss of your mom. I lost my mom 3 years ago, this past September. I had quit the corporate world to move back home to care for her for 5 1/2 years. It was a blessing for both of us. She showed me how to live w/ debilitating illness and still greet each day with a smile. She had such grace and dignity, and compassion for others, right up to the end. I was NOT prepared for her death. I find it strange that, at 58 y.o., I've watched many babies come into the world and celebrated each joyous occasion, yet, no one prepared me for death, let alone my mom's. It was such a surreal experience. It is still very “RAW” for me. I can cry at the drop of a hat. I would cry walking through grocery stores or at the gym (like you) and folks would stop me and ask if there was anything they could do for me. I'd just say that I was grieving the loss of my mama. They wouldn't know what to say then. It was ok.

My mom lives on inside me…I feel that every day. The things that she taught me, her kind and gentle, caring spirit…I've got it!! And I talk to her so many times throughout the day. I just don't want to forget the way her hands felt……so very soft, when I would hold them, or the precious smile looking back up at me from her bed…and her scent..the fragrance that surrounded her even while in the hospital. At times I'm afraid that I will forget…I hope not.

Grieving is an individual journey and has no time limitations or conditions. For me, it is weaving the fabric of her life into mine and knowing that this is truly the cycle of life. I am JOY-FULL because this wonderful woman is no longer suffering. And I'm truly happy that she was MY mom.

Let those tears flow, John! I'll be right there with you, with my own. Losing ones mother is BIG. It just is! There are no “replacements.” Carry her in your heart always, John.

Thanks for this post. I needed this today…a few tears & wonderful memories.

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